The difference between French men and American men is simple. French men love to be in love. French men love the chemistry, the brain hormones, of love; they love the regular affection and sex that stimulate those hormones ~ it is a win-win situation. Both the chemistry and the circumstances to promote that chemistry result in good feelings. In France, love is a drug. And everyone is addicted.
American men see love as a trap, a limitation, a loss of identity. Attractive men (both physically and socially) in America remain single out of an underlying fear of losing freedom and selfhood. And sexual encounters without romance do not stimulate the brain chemistry that results in good feelings. Americans are severely depleted in the wondrous effects of love.
American women contribute to this. The How-To-Catch-A-Man books and seminars reinforce the idea of hunt and capture, the women taking the masculine role of hunter (like the perpetually single goddess, Diana) reinforcing men’s fear of being trapped. What came first, the chicken or the sperm and egg?
Biologists who promote the idea that it is natural to avoid monogamy neglect the basic information that humans have evolved beyond the animal brain. The difference between man and monkey may be only a few chromosomes but the result is obvious: civilization (for better or for worse) is the result of that evolution. And monogamy is the mainstay of civilization. And romance is the mainstay of monogamy.
To replace the lacking love hormones, Americans exercise. Physical exertion releases endorphins that are similar to the love hormones for good feelings. In Paris, you would be hard-pressed to find a gym. But in Los Angeles or New York, there is a gym in every mile and a gym membership promotion in every mailbox. The exercise craze has little to do with health; it is primarily supplying necessary brain chemistry for survival (and feeding the low self-esteem issue of needing to look good/never looking good enough). What is lost on Americans is the fact that the love hormones affect your perception of the lover: the person you love becomes more and more beautiful to you as you continue to release the hormones. Without the release of love hormones, nothing remains beautiful in your perception.
The studies of why the French have a lower rate of heart disease than Americans were incomplete: while wine with lunch and dinner do promote certain aspects of heart health, the emotional heart is an even greater factor. Longevity studies repeatedly show that happily married people live longer than any category of single people. Love is healthier than diet and exercise. And infinitely more fun!
Love, romance, affection, regular sex ~ the combination of these cure a whole laundry list of physical and emotional symptoms. While “the turmoil of love” may contribute to suicide attempts (a la Romeo and Juliet), romance relieves the inclination to suicide and other self-destructive tendencies as well as psychological diseases such as depression, anxiety (there is anecdotal evidence regarding agoraphobia; “germaphobia” – see Glee), and OCD (remember the movie, As Good As it Gets?). Hypertension is almost unheard of in France.
The difference between French men and American men is that the French have discovered the fountain of youth. And contrary to popular belief, it is the Americans who don’t like water.
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